After the Fall…

akhilanda

I’ve written a good bit lately about the challenges we are all facing.  Even though today is Christmas, the tension seems to be mounting and some folks appear to be stumbling on the path (notice I said appear!).  So I want to talk about how to keep going in spite of our challenges– to move through them and make progress toward our goals.

We have a special role here on this little blue planet we call Earth– as spirits having a human experience, we are also and forever Spiritual Warriors.  Therefore, like any other warriors in any other trenches in any other wars, we’re supported by our High Command– a bountiful and benevolent Universe.  What do we need?  Better rations?  Medical supplies? Improved radio equipment?  Or just instructions for the next piece of action?  We have only to contact High Command and ask.  It’s all there for us.  The only thing we are required to do in exchange is… you’ve got it!  Keep on fighting.  Sometimes we’ll lose a battle.  Sometimes we’ll win one.  Sometimes it’ll look like a tie.  But this is not about winning or losing conflicts with some external enemy– this war is one we wage with the fearful part of our human selves.  Why do we fight?  Because we have a job to do here, and that is to become part of HIgh Command’s support system for other spiritual warriors who haven’t figured out that’s what they are yet.

Yesterday one of my students and fellow warriors sent me a link to this wonderful article about the Indian Goddess Ahkilandeshvari– whose name means “Always Broken Goddess.”

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/06/why-being-broken-in-a-pile-on-your-bedroom-floor-is-a-good-idea-julie-jc-peters/

Now, I don’t channel goddesses– at least not yet– and I’m not particularly trusting of crocodiles.  But I like Julie Peters’ explanation of how the Always Broken Goddess keeps recreating herself, climbing back on that crocodile, and carrying on no matter what.  I like it because I know it’s possible.  I know we can do this, because I’ve done it myself and survived.

Right now, this very day, some of us are dealing with health problems.  Some are challenged in their relationships with others (which can seem even more distressing during the  holidays).  Some are facing what they believe may be the destruction of their fondest hopes and dreams– a perfect job, an academic degree, a much-coveted move to a new and more exciting locale.  It may look like we will never heal, never find the perfect partner, never get where we most want to go in our lives.  But you know what?  That’s just an illusion.  Everything we want to be is what we already are, and we already have exactly what we most want and need.  All we have to do is get up off the floor, gather those little pieces of ourselves, climb back on that crocodile, and look around.

Ahkilanda shows us, through her own resiliency, that we are actually indestructible– no matter how “broken” we may feel.  And from the back of the crocodile, there’s a whole new world of possibilities to be seen.

Reviving Your Inner Optimist

CrabapplesYesterday morning my husband and I were discussing optimism versus pessimism.  A Vietnam vet with PTSD, my husband tends toward the latter world view, while I’m the proverbial Pollyanna– a trait for which I’ve been ridiculed for most of my life.  The good news about being a Pollyanna, though, is that your life (should you be someone who enjoys life) can be longer, happier, and more productive.  Not a bad deal, is it?!!

I mentioned in my last post that we’d be discussing various physical conditions and their causes and cures.  Depression, it turns out, is one of the major causes of dis-ease.  Not only does chronic depression affect the afflicted individual– it hamstrings his friends and family members as well.  This particular condition is called “compassion fatigue”– or in the words of Anne-Marie Botek, author of a book and website on the topic, “caregiver burnout.”  But there is hope– a bright light at the end of that gloomy tunnel.  Here is an article by Anne-Marie Botek, with links to additional tips.  Although her focus is on elder care, the excellent advice she offers can be helpful to anyone who lives with and loves a depressed person.

3 Ways to Bring Out Your Inner Optimist!

By Anne-Marie Botek, AgingCare.com

Optimism; a word associated with sunny smiles and a Pollyanna-ish outlook on life.

But, what does it really mean to be optimistic? And—more important to the stressed-out caregiver—how can you be optimistic in the face of seemingly endless negativity?

Being optimistic does not mean that you have to constantly walk around with a smile plastered onto your face, burying your true feelings and pretending to be happy.

Rick Hanson, Ph. D., caregiver, and author of “Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neurosciences of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom,” says that being optimistic means that you see the world accurately, taking in both the good and the bad. And yes, you can train yourself to be more optimistic.

Pessimism, on the other hand, is an unhealthy obsession with the negative, which can snowball until a person feels completely helpless and totally trapped.

Hanson says that it’s unfortunately pretty easy to fall prey to pessimism because the human brain has a built-in survival mechanism—called the negativity bias—that makes us instinctively focus on the bad or threatening aspects of our environment while ignoring the good.

Caregivers can become so overwhelmed by the bad that it can be nearly impossible to see the good. Hanson offers three simple tips for caregivers who want to teach themselves to become more optimistic:

Think, Do, Be Positive!
How to Stop Being So Hard On Yourself
11 Ways to Stop Depression

3 Ways to Bring Out Your Inner Optimist originally appeared on AgingCare.com.