TCS: Total Control Syndrome.
This is what I call the tendency to try to make things happen. A new job, a more solid interpersonal relationship, improved health, better weather– it doesn’t matter what it is. What does matter is that for each of us, perfect timing is unique, just as we are unique. No two snowflakes are alike, and no two humans. what works for one may not work for another, and whatever is meant to work will do so in its own time.
Western culture has indoctrinated all of us who have grown up here in this country and in other countries that are governed by the business model of competition, power, and control. When we were very small, we probably didn’t feel this push. But when we began to join our society, to become young adults, the message was very clear. You’re either a winner or you’re nothing– and it doesn’t matter what field you’re considering. Medicine, law, marriage, homemaking, child-rearing, business, academia– all the same. Win big or lose everything.
Fortunately, none of this is true. Who we really are is perfect, and there’s no need to struggle and push. All we need to do is set a clear intention for what we hope to experience and allow it to happen in its own time.
Lena and Jose Stevens’ Power Path Monthly Forecast for February lays out sound suggestions for navigating this month and dealing with any push from the past we may still be feeling.